Grace and Jeremy’s wedding day began at the Omni Severin Hotel on a sunny November afternoon in downtown Indianapolis. The Monumental Marathon had closed the streets, including the shuttle route to the church. So they walked instead. As New Yorkers, it felt completely normal. Suits, dress, city streets and all.

Middleburg, Virginia feels like a town written in cursive. Stone walls curve along the road, meadows stretch toward the Blue Ridge, and everything moves at a slower, more deliberate pace. There’s hay in the air, history underfoot, and a sense that nothing here is in a rush. Along the way, a hand-painted sign mentions an old cat crossing. The kind of detail that only exists in places like this.

I’m always a little surprised that the Indiana Statehouse is… in Indiana. It’s grand and detailed, filled with natural light but still moody in the best way. Gilded chandeliers. Marble everywhere. Sweeping staircases that feel more Europe than Midwest.

We’ve photographed a lot of weddings. And while every one is different, the ones we love most tend to share a few things in common. They’re not following a formula. They’re not trying to impress anyone. They just feel good.

Here are a few signs you might be planning that kind of wedding.

The best weddings don’t feel overly planned. They feel well loved. The timeline exists, but no one’s staring at it. The details matter, but no one’s stressing about them. People are present. The energy is good. The shoes come off at some point.